Never borrow never lend, if you want to keep a friend.

I could not agree more. Whoever said beg, borrow, steal was a way out, was not living in today’s world.

We all know a person’s attire gives in a sense of his personality. Many ever believe shoes tell you about a person. In fact, that is the sole reason why candidates appearing for an interview dress their best.

But what if this “look” and “personality” is borrowed? Can you imagine how deceptive it can be!

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Because we, in general, are receptive to another persons look and dressing, it may lead us to wrong conclusions if the appearance is faked. And, it won’t be wrong in saying that clothes, make up, footwear and hair style can change the way one looks. Very easily that too.

A perfect example of that being the world of cinema. Actors and actresses adopt various looks for a particular film, which change movie after movie. I still remember our talented Miss World turned actress Priyanka Chopra in the Bollywood movie What’s your Rashee. It depicted Miss PC in 12 different avatars based on the common star signs. And everyone would agree, the make up artist and costume designer did a fantastic job.

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And that’s not just about the movie world. In reality too, people carry themselves off as someone else.

For this, let me give a simple example. Girl 1, from a mediocre background, a newly independent citizen. Girl 2, a little better off. For a party, 1 borrows from 2 a dress and a pair of heels. Later, photos of them surface up on Facebook.

Someone had commented on 1‘s incredible dressing sense, how fabulous she looks in a dress, how the dress is completely made for her. 2 was amused by the way 1 floated around after the newly found love of others appreciation. 

For a next event too, 1 borrows her look from 2. Stingy in investing in a dress and presuming borrowing is the best shine out for a night, 1 continued this habit for a continued period of time, over which her financial status was not as middle-class as before. But habits, they say, are hard to let go.

Soon, 2 realized 1 was taking an advantage of her. And without much verbal conflict, the distance between them started growing.

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Well, I don’t know how else this story ends, firstly because it’s absolutely fictitious and made up entirely to relate to this topic. Secondly because, it’s about girls. You cannot be sure how they ended things and what their verbal conversation might have been. Also, I took the liberty to exemplify this with girls because I don’t think men fight over these petty issues. (Or maybe I am wrong) 😀

What I believe is, its good to change the way you look or carry yourself. It’s also okay to borrow once in a while, in case of fashion emergencies. But do not depend on others to remake or to create your own personality.

Maybe initially you might get successful in creating an impression you want to, but eventually who you exactly are will surface. 

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So invest in yourself. If you cannot buy expensive stuff, at least be presentable with what you can afford. And smile. It makes a huge lot of difference in the way you look.

Cheers.

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Velankanni Church of Virgin Mary

On a warm summer morning of Tamil Nadu, a group of young girls decided to visit a church nearby.

Map was arranged. Calls were made. Cab was hired.

Since it was only 3 years later I started penning down this trip – blame my poor memory- I used excerpts from Richard Clarke’s Blog to introduce Velankanni Church.

“Our Lady of Velankanni (alternately spelled Vailankanni) Church, called “The Lourdes of the East” and also “Our Lady of Good Health.” It carries these names because of three miracles that happened associated with the Mother Mary. It was built in the late 16th century. Later, modifications were made by the Portuguese.

Velankanni Church is a colossal structure, built in the Gothic style of architecture.

Velankanni receives many visitors. The largest crowd is up to 500,000 on September 8 of each year, for the nativity of the Virgin Mary.

The local tradition talks of the apparitions of Virgin Mary at Velankanni, at least three times. It is seen as a place of healing, and attracts many thousands of visitors, mainly Indians.”

Since our day began early, and hostel mess food was pathetic, we stopped to eat roadside.

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Well what we ate wasn’t top class food, but it was better than what we left behind in hostel.

Soon enough we reached the beautiful church.

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Parts of it was getting renovated.

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We took the entrance from the left…..

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If you stand on this church, you see 3 churches – one on your left, one on your right, and one straight ahead.

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A peaceful place to worship.

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And a special area designated to sell franchised products of Velankanni Church.

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Oh, and one of the 3 churches I mentioned about – the one straight opposite – many people come here and go to that church crawling or barefoot. It is a belief if you pray for something – this is the hardship you need to get through.

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We spotted a woman going there- on her knees. There is a tree inside the church; childless women tie a handkerchief in the shape of a pram here. Apparently they get blessed with children after that.

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Not sure about the myths and beliefs related with the churches, but it was a beautiful architectural site too.

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Some Links :

Velankanni Town – Wikipedia

Velankanni Church Website

I.Love.India Website talks about the church.

A to Z of Delhites ;)

alphabets, Delhi

Auntys (you see them everywhere!!!)
Bungalows (display of your assets)
Camera freak (absolutely :D)
Diamonds are best friends (Check out the list of outlets of Jewellery stores in Delhi – You’ll be shocked)
Eating (especially roadside)
Farm house (for a weekend get-away)
Gadgets (see see see I have ******* phone 😉
High society high heels (O, yeah.. SATC)
Imported cars (but bad condition of roads)
Jewellery (artificial is better than real, and most of the times you can’t find out the difference)
Khan market (shopping HUB)
Luxury safari (what FUN 😀
Marriage (excites everyone)
Not real (So true!!!)
O Teri (most commonly used word- after the swearing obviously)
Pubs (in every nook and corner)
Queen size (so common – yet doesn’t stop people for wearing anything they want 😀
Restaurant (5-6 in every street- yes we love eating THAT much)
Sale season (makes people go GA GA)
Tour of Canada (is SO common in elite families)
USA dreams (for one and all)
VIP (nobody is NOBODY in Delhi)
Whisky (on the rocks)
Exercise (~no comments~)
Young (no dictionary had the word OLD)
Zero size (most desirable thing – for men and women 😉

Disclaimer : No intentions to hurt anyone’s feeling!

Note for readers : “Delhite” is a slang given to people living in Delhi

A fun link : Facebook page of  Proud to be a Delhite and I love Delhi and also Meri Delhi Meri Jaan

An interesting link : Samosapedia – The definitive guide to South Asian lingo

The easily forgotten roadside thoughts…

Roadside thoughts.

One. How do they survive?

Two. Do they even get one day’s meal?

Three. Can they not get employed somewhere? Govt can employ them to clean roads, and pay them daily wages.

Four. What happens in winters?

Five. Were they born in poverty or they reached this pathetic condition later on in life?

Six. Will they be there if I come back after a week?

Seven. What if they need medical attention?

Eight. What happens when they die?

Nine. Does the world care?

Ten. Can I change the world?

Eleven. I am getting late for my job! Need to produce some electricity to keep our cities lighted. Probably I’ll catch a snack on the way. Hmmm…

Early to bed, Early to rise?

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November Resolution : Early to bed, Early to rise!

October 31st

10:00 pm

Tucked in bed

11:30 pm

Rolling on the bed thinking when will I fall asleep

(Sometime in between this) November Starts

2:00 am

“Damn it..! Why am I not getting sleep!” Wakes up, drinks water, back to bed! 😐

3:45 am

Finally asleep

8:00 am

Mom comes to wake me up

Repeats 5-6 times (based on my mom’s patience that day)

10:30 am

My good morning starts! 😀

Mundane activities follow

03:20 pm

I am not going to take an afternoon nap, so I can get sleep at night *smart thinking* 😉

Other unimportant activities follow

10:45 pm

“I should sleep”

11:55 pm

Rolling on the bed thinking what the hell is wrong with me 😐

November 2

2:00 am

LalaLALaAlALAaalaLaLALALALlalalaLA *humming songs in the head*

3: 30 am

Still no sleep

Falls asleep, Time unknown

9:00 am

Mom shouting, “Do you know what color is the sky at dawn, ever seen it?”

9:45 am

Wakes up rubbing eyes.

In the couch for an hour, finally gets up, splashes water on face. “I think now I am awake” 😉

Mundane activities follow

9:45 pm

Mom – “Are you going to bed soon?”

“Mom, did you see a point in it since last two days?” 😐

November Resolution Dropped

Roadways VS Railways

After knowing me so well, now I can confidently say that my first experience at things/events isn’t good – EVER!

As a kid, my parents never allowed me to travel alone till it became an absolute necessity!

And even till this age, I get the same repeated sessions of DO’s and DON’Ts to be followed while I am travelling alone. Not that my folks are scared that I’ll get talking to strangers and become friendly with them, but more about my health and doing things on time (“in time” according to them)!

After my first journey in the Indian Railways, I realized why my parents preferred roadways to railways. Here are a few of them enlisted –

1. You won’t need to book/buy your tickets months in advance for a road journey.

2. You can manage to get late for a road journey. You can hop on to the next bus and its super convenient if you own a car. The train may get delayed on its own, but in case it’s on time – it won’t wait for you!

3. Breakdowns. A bus may be replaced, trains are generally cancelled.

4. In case of fog, or bad weather, buses will still comply to deliver passengers to their destinations – generally taking a little longer the usual time; railways take no such guarantee.

5. Mishaps. Accident possibility in railway journey might not outnumber the one by roadways. But extent of disaster is worse.

6. Roadside dhabbas don’t serve you chai made in sewer water and food out of God-knows-What ingredients. Eating from railways’ food department is a sure shot invitation to Food Poisoning.

7. It’s tough to change your seat or exchange it with fellow train passengers.

8. The fear of losing your luggage in trains is higher! 😐

Although my train journeys in the past have been pretty eventful, but most of them ended at my destination SAFELY.

I have now made a clear-cut choice to pick roadways whenever possible, and railways are preferred only for the sole reason of SPEED-DISTANCE-TIME ratio.

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Over the years, we lose the charm of celebrating birthday in the cake-cutting-and-balloon-bursting style!

The gathering, the lighting candles, the monotonous signing of Happy-Birthday-To-You with cheering and clapping, and making a wish before blowing out the candles used to be fun, isn’t it?

I still am the seven-year old at heart, waiting for my birthday eagerly, year after year! I like to eat my left over cake the next day and I absolutely love looking at my birthday presents again and again 😉

I think it’s because of the fond memories of various birthday bashes I planned for my friends, and the ones I got in return, that I still am excited about birthdays! 

It’s not about getting older, it’s about cherishing the past and welcoming the future!

Cheers..!