Often it happens, what is want to say to someone – remains unsaid. That silence and mum for years builds up in our hearts and minds. Here is a series of “Unposted Letters” which will feature emotions – feelings – thoughts of people who have something to say.
To someone I knew years ago…
You pretended to be my friend and to be on my side. But you truly never were!
How naive of me to believe that we, who had nothing in common…not even a song or book we both liked would go on to become life buddies and best friends forever. When I cried, you patted and hugged me but what you were doing is making notes to share with your “other” friends over your Friday drinks. Why couldn’t I ever see through all that? When I replay old scenes doing a slow motion rewind, I realize that there were clear signs which told me to move on and find a new friend. But I did not!
Today, I am much older, it’s been over a decade and a half and we have gone our separate ways. I choose my friends wisely and these friends and I have stuck with each other during personal moments of grief and in happier times.
I see you on social media, having fun, posting updates and with close to 1000 friends to boast of. It doesn’t bother me that you have not dropped me a line but it does bother me that you laughed at my expense, had conversations poking fun at me and today there is not a hint of recognition when we bumped into each other at the coffee shop?!
Anyway, I am going to add this so called friendship to my list of experiences that I have collected over the last three decades. There is a lesson that I will teach my young daughter which can be applied to many areas of life and I learnt these life lessons from a friendship (?).
Don’t be afraid to make the hard decisions and don’t beat yourself up…we all live and learn…
– From a more mature human being…
Guest post writer : Aarti Iyer at http://flyingbubbles.wordpress.com/